“The unhappiest people in this world are those who care the most about what other people think.”
A significant amount of my anxiety stems from what other people think of me.
I actually don’t get anxious over being embarrassed. I could trip and fall on my face in front of a room full of people and be anxiety-free. My anxiety comes from someone thinking that I am a bad person or that I think poorly of someone. I have been that bad person throughout my life, growing and learning, shaping myself into the person that I do want to be and a person that I am proud of. for this reason, when someone thinks poorly of me or has the potential to think poorly of me, my mind races and I become preoccupied and concerned with it.
Living life happily needs to come from within. Being obsessed with other people’s impressions and opinions of you is unhealthy and detrimental to your self-esteem. Your opinion of yourself is the most important one. It is the only one that truly matters in the grand scheme of things.
The truth is simple: not everyone is going to like you. It makes no difference what kind of person you are. You can be the nicest, most kind-hearted person on the planet. Eventually, you are going to run into someone that you do not get along with and that does not like you, even if you feel their reasons are unjustified. That is just human nature.
This is something that I need to improve on in my own life. I have a tendency to seek out approval and confirmation in my decisions, anxious and concerned that I will offend or hurt someone. I never want anyone to see me in a bad light or think poorly of me for any reason at all. This is an unrealistic expectation that I need to throw out the window. My anxiety has other plans, but I have been fighting my anxiety my whole life and I will not stop now.
Life your life in a way that you are proud of. Do not seek approval from other people in order to live your own life. If something makes you happy and allows you to feel confident in yourself, you do not need the approval of anyone else. Be free and live confidently.