“Be there for others, but never leave yourself behind.”
It became sort of a joke that I was unable to find a place to get a cupcake on my birthday last week. My boyfriend and I drove all around the city, hitting 3 different places, all of which were closed unexpectedly. Eventually, we gave up on the idea and drove home, deciding that it wasn’t meant to be.
As a birthday present to myself, I decided to wait until the local raved-about cupcake shop opened up to get myself a red velvet cupcake. I drove over there and picked up a cupcake simply as a treat to myself because I wanted one.
Regardless of whether or not it is your birthday, I think it’s important to treat yourself every once in a while. Remember that you deserve luxuries, whether that is getting your nails done, ordering dessert, or getting a massage. You don’t need a special occasion to make yourself feel special.
Society has conditioned us to consistently strive to do things for others. Help others. Focus on things other than yourself. This is a positive approach, but only to a certain extent; if you don’t take care of yourself, you will be in no condition to help others. Being selfless is an admirable characteristic to possess, but it’s useless if you let yourself dwindle to nothing and don’t spend time caring for yourself first.
Don’t feel guilty for spending time on yourself. Get that mani-pedi you’ve been wanting. Buy yourself a new pair of shoes. Order two desserts after your meal. Spend an entire day at home in your pajamas watching TV. Don’t let others tell you that it’s selfish. Self-care is important, both mentally and physically.