“The best thing about college is that people won’t judge you for who you were in the third grade.”
It’s important to remember that you are not the person that you were as a child. You could’ve been the most outgoing, talkative, and resilient child known to man and grow up to be a reserved, introverted, and fairly shy adult. Your youth does not determine your adulthood.
A few months before I left for university, I stumbled across the quote I’ve written up above. It resonated with me; part of the reason I wanted to get out of the place that I lived was to start over. It wasn’t to create a new me; it was to live as the already-new me that people didn’t seem to see due to the fact that they’d known me for so long and grew to know the old me, a me that I didn’t want to be anymore.
Decisions when you were 3 years old, 8 years old, 12 years old, or even last year do not define you. If you made a decision yesterday and you want to change the type of person you are, do it. That decision does not determine who you will be for the rest of your life, regardless of how recent it was. There is nothing that says you can’t start over right here in this moment. You don’t even need to wait until tomorrow. Start over at 2:33PM if that’s when you want your fresh start to begin. Only you are stopping you.
This thinking applies to your relationships with other people as well; don’t define people and judge people based on their pasts. Their pasts do not define them just as your past does not define you. I say this a lot throughout my blog, but I’ll say it again: we all make mistakes. Every single one of us. Don’t judge others solely by their mistakes, especially if you don’t want to be judged solely by yours.
You are the person that you decide to be right now, here, in this moment. “You are under no obligation to be the person you were five minutes ago.”