“Your past mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.”
I have a tendency to live in the past.
I think that comes from my anxiety; I dwell over past mistakes, constantly remembering and feeling anxious about the problems I may have caused, things I have done that I wouldn’t have done or would have done differently, anything and everything you can imagine from stuttering while talking to someone or talking badly about someone behind his or her back. All of those mistakes and faults haunt me each and every day. Some days, they haunt me more than others.
Today is a day like that. Today, I’ve found myself reflecting on the past, living as though my mistakes define me. The things I said or did that harmed other people do not define who I am now. I’m a different person; I’ve changed in practically every way possible. I’ve grown and learned from those mistakes. Learning from my mistakes it not my problem; my problem is letting go of those mistakes.
No one is perfect. There is not a single person on this planet that doesn’t make mistakes, hurt people, and screw up. Even if you look at someone and think that they are perfect, there are things that you don’t know about them. You may never know those things about them, but they are there. Every flaw, fault, and failure is right there, underneath the surface.
Letting go is the hardest part. You can accept the fact that you’ve made mistakes and caused people pain. I’ve accepted that. I can’t change those things, especially the mistakes so far into the past. But I can stop myself from overreacting and blowing things out of proportion. A mistake from 5 years ago is in the past. It’s gone, to be learned from and then forgotten about. Let go. Remember that those mistakes made you a better person and changed your perspective on life and learning. Those mistakes, however, do not define the person that you are today. They may have helped create the person you are, but they are not who you are.
There is only one thing that you can do from this point forward: you can look at your life and make decisions in the future with morality and thoughtfulness. Think about your decisions before you make them. Think before you speak. Don’t live in the past. Live for the future.